Hoewel versuim om onderhoud te betaal ‘n kriminele oortreding is, ontvang talle primêre versorgers nie die onderhoud wat hulle of hul kinders toekom nie. ‘n Nuwe inisiatief verhoed dat onderhoudwanbetalers voortgaan om krediet te ontvang terwyl hulle onderhoud verskuldig is – en ‘n nuwe toep help geskeide ouers om misverstande en konflik te beperk. (Hierdie artikel het in die Februarie 2023-uitgawe van ‘rooi rose’ verskyn.)

Men and women are wired differently. Psychologist and former serial killer profiler Dr. Micki Pistorius’ insights into the male psyche are arresting. She describes men as heroes and warriors. How do men view emotions, dating, female friends and marriage? What are their strongest drives and deepest fear? How does one best communicate with a man? Dr. Pistorius’ book, “Heroes”, offers answers that every woman should note.

Understanding the differences in the way men and women communicate, can ease life at work and at home. Through her science-backed work, body language expert Tania Steyn reconnects people with their “primary language” by increasing self-awareness. She points out dissimilarities between the sexes’ communication styles, and non-verbal behaviour traps women can avoid to develop leadership presence. Learn more about lunch chasers, fire gazers and nest builders, and why you shouldn’t cross your arms in the workplace.

Business & executive coach Dawn Klatzko discusses the objectives of coaching, the importance of a chemistry check, and how coaches use profiling instruments to help their clients achieve their goals. She illuminates the neuroscience-based Mind Dynamix Profile Instrument, explaining why our “experts” power down during stress and how Mind Moves tap into neuroplasticity.

Can childhood trauma cause infidelity? Which patterns are involved in the unravelling of a love relationship? Counselling psychologist Dr. Ingrid Artus clarifies what happens emotionally and physiologically, the effect of betrayal, dealing with trauma, and affairs as a possible form of addiction. She offers the antidotes to criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.

None of us is immune to relationship fallouts. Counselling psychologist Dr. Hannetjie van Zyl-Edeling clarifies what conflict entails, its purpose, causes and effects, and explains what happens in your body during a quarrel. She recommends rules for fair fighting and reveals the secret behind handling disagreements really well.  

Occupational therapist Tanya Muir sheds light on sleep problems encountered by parents, babies and young kids. Combining evidence-based solutions with her experience as a mom, Tanya explains how sleep deprivation can affect caregivers’ physical and mental health, weight loss after pregnancy, and love relationships. She offers practical interventions for getting better sleep all round.

Seksuele molestering en verkragting is algemener as wat ons dink en die oortreders is dikwels vertrouelinge. Pastorale narratiewe terapeut dr. Marietjie van Loggerenberg praat deernisvol oor die gepaardgaande trauma, misplaaste skaamte en skuldgevoelens, en geheimhouding. Sy verduidelik hoe seksuele misbruik in narratiewe terapie benader word: jy kán jou beperkende identiteitsverhaal herskryf. Sensitiewe inhoud, vir volwasse luisteraars bedoel.

Do you feel others’ emotions in your body? Are you sometimes called “too sensitive”? Master transformation coach Liezl Thom explains how this gift can become a curse – but that awareness of what’s going on, realising that you can choose not to experience others’ feelings, and learning how to close yourself off when necessary will transform you into an empowered empath.

Drawing on her own experience, empowerment coach Diana Kearns encourages women to identify limiting beliefs which fuel negative behaviours, to grow healthy habits and recognise their own “perfect imperfection.” She explains how finding the necessary support and healing the wounded inner child can lead to freedom and transformation.

In his 1937 self-help classic “Think and Grow Rich”, Napoleon Hill said every genius that ever lived knew the art of sex transmutation. Sacred sexuality, mentality and spirituality educator and former Recce Ian J. van Rensburg explains how sexual energy can be transformed to attain goals, bring about healing, and foster authenticity. He outlines a 7-step process to implement this “rocket booster of the Law of Attraction.” Sensitive content: intended for adult listeners.

Individuals caring for a loved one or someone with a challenging condition often neglect their own well-being. This can result in exhaustion on top of experiencing fear, anxiety and even guilt. Caregiver advocate Meriam Boldewijn explains how a simple self-care system can help caregivers regain their balance and realise that they are “worthy of a wonderful life too.”

What should you bear in mind when making love? Dr. Elna Rudolph, medical doctor and sexologist, reveals ten rules for sexual etiquette.

In our society, death isn’t readily discussed. It is also one of our biggest fears. Therapeutic counsellor Nidhi Amanda Chaitow explains what a death doula does, how acknowledging the reality of death can positively impact our lives, what “a beautiful death” means, and how creativity can help us feel more connected. Nidhi talks about her own grieving process following the recent loss of her beloved.

Are you part of the 10% of the population experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder? Being traumatised can affect us in disturbing ways. Counselling psychologist Heinrich Benjamin defines trauma and highlights its causes, how it can be recognised, and how it is diagnosed. He focuses on the advantages of the successful use of BrainWorking Recursive Therapy in the treatment of PTSD and offers practical examples of life-changing results.

Couples who are getting divorced needn’t go to court. Laurie Greyvenstein, accredited family mediator, clarifies mediation or alternative dispute resolution (ADR). He points out why divorce mediation is much cheaper, faster and more flexible, and explains concepts such as maintenance, parenting plans, and the voice of the child.

Pastorale narratiewe terapeut dr. Marietjie van Loggerenberg praat oor die hantering van ‘n kind wat uit die kas kom, skok en skaamte, wanpersepsies rakende gay-wees, en die vrees vir verwerping en seksueel oordraagbare siektes. Sy gee raad - ook vir ouers wat ‘n geloofstryd beleef - en omlyn 7 stappe na die uiteindelike aanvaarding van ‘n kind se seksuele oriëntasie. Sensitiewe inhoud: dié gesprek is vir volwassenes bedoel.

Being sexually active can lead to contracting an STI. Dr. Jireh Serfontein, medical doctor and sexologist, talks about common sexually transmitted infections, their symptoms, testing, treatment and the effect on one’s health and intimate relationship. She discusses the management of shame, stigma and “STI phobia”.

Die besluit om te skei, die egskeidingsproses en die aanpassing daarná is emosioneel uitmergelend en behels groot praktiese uitdagings. As jy iemand in hierdie situasie wil bystaan, moet jy dit oordeelkundig doen. Pastorale terapeut ds. Braam Klopper verduidelik hoe jy van hulp kan wees, wat om nié te doen nie en hoe om vertroulike inligting te hanteer. Hy gee ook raad oor die geloofsworsteling wat egskeiding vir gelowiges kan meebring.

Elke mens treur anders. Ds. Braam Klopper, pastorale terapeut en rouspesialis, verduidelik hoe die manier waarop iemand sterf en ander faktore ons hantering van smart beïnvloed. Ons moet ook verstaan dat mans en vroue droefheid verskillend verwerk. Begrip vir uiteenlopende roupatrone, sienings van lojaliteit en benaderings tot intimiteit maak dit makliker om mekaar te ondersteun.